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  • I will always remember his gardening advice: “don’t just keep working on it, stop, look and enjoy the results”.

    My Dad passed away a few years ago and we received many lovely messages. One particular card had this beautiful note in it and for ages it just stuck in my head. After a few days it struck me that my dad was actually trying to send me a message. I needed to do exactly that – stop working so hard on my life… look at what I have got in front of me.. .and enjoy it!

    Really…? This note was about his garden not my life. But it got me thinking. Is life planning like garden planning?

    The garden metaphor was staring at me.

    1. Have a vision: Design your garden how you want it to look but more importantly work out what will grow in the best conditions. What is suited in the sun, what will grow in the shade? Have a vision for how you would like your life to be.
    2. Prepare the soil: Ensure that the soil is ready to receive, lay the foundations so every plant has the best opportunity to thrive. This can be the hardest bit but is absolutely worthwhile. Dig deep and find the time and energy to love yourself.
    3. Planting: Plant the right seeds so you can reap what you sow. Be realistic and plan what is right for the environment. Notice what you have and find gratitude in your present day.
    4. Buy wisely and do the research: Know that you might make mistakes but you will learn from those mistakes and plant better, more appropriately next time. We never fail, we just keep learning.
    5. Nurture and look after: Gardening is not the work of a moment. It needs continual caring and looking after regularly. As do we.
    6. Prune regularly: Get rid of baggage and any unwanted thorns and weeds. Those weeds maybe metaphors for anger, guilt, fear and resentment. They will keep coming back unless you get to the roots. Do this regularly.
    7. Protect your garden: Keep pests and unwanted animals at bay. Build a fence around your garden. Only invite in those you will see the garden through your eyes and enjoy it.
    8. Reap what you sow: Start a vegetable patch to encourage a healthy lifestyle.
    9. Be aware: Things might be out of your control. There might be a storm and your plants might get damaged but if you continue to have patience and trust your garden will bloom again.

    To have a beautiful garden is a long, hard working project as is life. But the beauty of a garden project is that at any point in time you can take a step back and say I did that and I am proud of the hard work. Everything I have learnt is only making the garden even better.

    So we can do the same with our lives. We can be proud of every step, learn from all the mistakes but sometimes we need to be in the present moment and just stop and take a look at what we have achieved, and enjoy it.

    If you look the right way, you can see that the whole world is a garden.

    Frances Hodgson Burnett a

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  • Kintsugi helped me move on from cancer.

    “The wound is the place where light enters you”  Rumi

    How do you learn to heal and free yourself from your own limiting beliefs? By learning to love every part of who you are and embracing your own flaws and imperfections. This is Kintsugi.

    Kintsugi is the beautiful Japanese art of repairing broken pottery with gold. Using Kintsugi as a metaphor teaches us an important lesson: in the process of repairing things that have broken, we actually create something that is even more unique, resilient and beautiful.

    Following my breast cancer surgery five years ago, I have definitely been left with scarring, both physical and emotional. My physical scars are going to remind me every day, for the rest of my life of the path cancer traced across my skin and my life.

    But scars don’t have to be thought of as ugly reminders of something terrible, of the price your body has paid. By embracing the philosophy behind Kintsugi, I have been able to find a way to accept my scars, those visible and those hidden in my heart and mind. I now tell my story from a place of learning and growth.

    Kintsugi embraces authenticity and imperfections and highlights rather than hides the scars. Alongside the scars, these golden threads of repair in the pottery, also show endurance, strength, resilience, determination, sheer bloody-mindedness, and, we hope, recovery.

    This same philosophy can be applied to life. We all long for a good life. We want happiness, love and success. Yet things are never easy or perfect. Life is full of successes and failures, and sometimes it can feel broken, damaged and imperfect.

     
     
     

    The truth is, it is such struggles and challenges that make life worth living; that make the good that much better.

    Candice Kumai, author of Kintsugi Wellness: The Japanese Art of Nourishing Mind, Body, and Spirit, tells us that by embracing your past wounds, scars, pain and internal struggle, you accept their value. Your deepest pain, your biggest fears, all the struggles you’ve gone through have forever changed you. If you could see my heart, you would see there are golden cracks all over it.

    Following the philosophy of Kintsugi, what becomes important is how we handle the situations that don’t go our way. We shouldn’t hide them away or prevent them from being part of who we are. Instead, we should embrace them and let them make us stronger.

    We should grow and allow them to transform us into something beyond our wildest dreams. Life will never be perfect. Things don’t go as planned and our time here on earth is full of twists and turns. What we can do though, is control how we react to our struggles and challenges. Embrace the imperfections and tell our stories in new ways.

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  • What is Holistic Life Coaching?

    It is an entirely different approach in that it focuses on more of the larger picture in your life looking at all areas of self-improvement rather than one. 

    It is the beautiful combination of both physical and emotional health and well-being, looking at strategies and mindset to help you today. 

    The reason people don’t follow through on changes or go for their dreams is because life just happens. Responsibilities happen, overwhelm happens, limiting beliefs happen. People

    have career goals, relationship goals, health goals, financial goals but they

    also have doubts fears and distractions.

     

    The truth is that everyone needs accountability and encouragement but not everybody has a good support system through their family or their friends and the truth is that change is hard.

     

    • Big goals take big commitments. A life coach helps you dream big and stretch your horizons to create a compelling vision for your life and then they help you to chart the course to get there.
    • A life coach holds you accountable to yourself by holding you to a higher expectation and standards and reminding you of why you’re doing it all.
    • A life coach challenges you to see your true potential and to go for nothing less than all that you’re meant to be.
    • A life coach helps you find meaning even in the challenges in your life and to give your pain a purpose.
    • A life coach helps you keep your monkey mind in check so that you can choose optimism, feel confident and master a mindset of success.
    • A life coach helps you stay committed in those times when you feel frustrated overwhelmed or become distracted by life’s uncertainties.
    • A life coach is a support system that you can depend on when people in your life are naysayers haters or don’t believe in your vision
    • A life coach can show you proven strategies for finding your ideal partner or for getting a peaceful divorce, for finding your dream job or from escaping the rat race, for overcoming your self-sabotaging beliefs.
    • A life coach ensures you don’t have to do it alone anymore, that you’ll follow through on your goals and that you will ultimately fulfil your potential
    • A life coach can help you step back and take a holistic look at your diet, exercise regime, sleeping patterns and outlook on life.

    A life coach genuinely wants to help. This is why I am here to tell my story. I am reaching out and connecting to let you know you are not alone. My story is one of learning and being the person I want to be not what is expected of me by others. What you see is what you get: Who I see is who I am.

    Be.Well  Be.Happy  Be.You

     

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